My relationships have been characterized as more challenging and more rewarding. They take more trust, more honesty, and more openness than most. We get more pleasure and also build up a deeper level of respect and support than most people ever do.
Too much of a good thing is a good thing, says a popular country song, but I think there is really a point where any relationship can be over the line. The test is asking “Is this relationship enhancing my life at this moment, or is it taking from it?”
If a relationship is very intense that doesn’t mean it is likely to last longer, or that the links that keep us together are too difficult to break. The notorious difference is that when it ends it rarely ends badly, and I have several of my past relationships as friends today. Even when things go wrong its not as bad as in most monogamous marriages. There is not a lot of drama, no bitching, and I have been friends with women that left me even a long time ago.
