First of all I want to shamelessly quote from FastSeduction FAQ:
Q: “There’s this one woman (I’ve been chasing for X days/months/years)… how do I get her to [like / love / sleep with me]?”
A: This is called “one-itis”. An AFC who doesn’t realize he’s an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) will never understand why nobody can answer this question for him or why he will never be able to get this woman with his current mindset. First, you have to realize that if you’re thinking this way, you will always be an AFC and will almost always fail with women (you’re only sucesses coming from luck – hence, the term “getting lucky” which is used often by AFC types). Here’s why you can’t win over this woman: you don’t yet know how to go out and get 10 more desirable women in a short amount of time. If you DID know how to do that, you would not be obsessed with getting this one woman and you would already know how to answer your own question. Why? Think about it. If you could go out and have 10 (or more) women who are smarter, nicer, more beautiful, and more exciting than the one you are obsessing about, how important do you think she would be to you? You see, you can’t just go from being an AFC to PUA (Pick-up Artist) without a certain understanding. You have to first admit to yourself that you’re an AFC and get into recovery mode, becoming an RAFC (Recovering AFC). Learn to stop thinking like an AFC and the road to becoming a PUA will be clear. Once that road is clear, you will begin to understand the answer to this question. The reason this question is so difficult for an AFC to grasp is that truly understanding the answer is an epiphany.
[jetman coined one-itis, one of the most problematic symptoms of AFCs]
I faced this exact dilemma once more recently. Don’t read me wrong: I got rid of one-itis a long time ago, but occasionally a new girl comes along who is so far above average, with such high value to me, that I may have a relapse. So this time it was with a girl that off my list of most desirable characteristics a woman can have, a list with some 16 items on it she checked on just about… 14! That was way too close to my definition of an ideal woman for me, but she wasn’t as interested in me as I was interested in her. The result: I had for two days a case of one-itis! Here is the solution I found:
By the end of the second day I called another girl that I have been seeing for more than a year. She is a very good friend, one of the true sexually submissive women that I have found, and very fun to talk to and be with. So I arranged to meet with her at my place and we had a great session of sex, drinks, and fun talk, in that exact order. Then I got a Montecristo and a bottle of Malbec and went to the rooftop of my building. It was about 45 degrees outside and by the end of it I was shaking with cold, but didn’t stop until the end. I smoked the entire cigar and drank all the wine while saying outlout every little think, no matter how small or overlooked, that I didn’t like about her. In the middle I added phrases like “She is a Troyan Horse, sent to screw up my mind.”, and “She is very good, but there are others out there that are even better.” and other phrases to help me get a grip of myself.
Talking aloud makes your uncontious mind listen to it. I asked myself what would Style do? What would Joshua do if he was in my place? What would DeAngelo do? I questioned my motivations, I questioned her age (an important factor for me), and I questioned the wisdom of getting involved with someone that lives right on the other side of the country.
After all that I smelled like a cigar bar, was drunk, and literally felt the previously uncontrollable desire for her drained out of my body. She became a normal human being in my eyes and I could then see her problems, as well as her virtues, not through the goggles of passion but for what it is really worth.
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