This is the lamest, dumbest, most overused opener in the world.
Beautiful women hear this several times per evening, and if she says “yes” that doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t mean she likes you, it doesn’t mean she will talk to you any longer than the drink lasts. All it means is that she feels comfortable drinking your money. She may even feel entitled to it. Most freeloaders do.
Nothing sucks more than this, so say anything else. Ask her if she would buy you a drink. Ask her if you can buy her a Congressman. Feel free to buy the second round, of course.
Buying drinks, or paying for dinner, is something I do for people I am already friends with. I have no problem paying for drinks and dinner for a good friend that I already have rapport with, man or woman. However, if the drinks (or dinner, or whatever) are the ticket to keep her in your presence, you are playing a losing hand.
If a woman approaches you with an empty glass, don’t fall for that! Actually get used to look at her in the eyes. Don’t glance at her glass, and don’t glance at her boobs either!
However, I may say jokingly “Can I buy you a drink”, when we are already talking, if she knows that the drinks are for free, or if it is a B.Y.O.B. party.
Challenges
Go to a strip club, where it is customary for the client to buy extremely overpriced drinks for the girls. It is actually a rule of the house in most places. Then see how far you can go talking to her without buying any drinks. Make it a special exercise, or challenge, just for fun.
Just as an exercise go to a very busy bar and use all your talents to make people pay your drinks. This is actually easy to do when you are visiting other countries, I found out. Interesting foreigners usually get plenty of free beer. :-)
Special tip
If you are going to a bar with a girl that is gaming with you, give her your drinking money before you walk into the bar and tell her to pay for the drinks, in cash, one by one. The hotter she is, and the more people see that she is buying all the drinks, the better it gets…
