Weekends or long holidays are way too much time to be spent with someone you don’t know very well yet. Unless you are both in the beginning of that magic stave where you are falling in love and the other person can’t do anything wrong in your eyes, the fantasy can’t be maintained for that length of time. Not by you, not by her.
This means that by the end of the weekend, you’re just two people spending time together and if you’re clicking it goes reasonably well, but most probably it won’t. You may think she’s perfect and you’re in love, but after the first day, she’s just seeing you as a regular guy who is invading all her privacy or fogging up the mirror when she’s trying to put her make-up on.
Vacations are hard even on couples that are dating. In fact, they’re relationship killers – Looking back I see that of those long weekends and short trips with girls, most of the time they were the end of the relationship, not the beginning.
I also think long dates are very risky if you tend to fall in love, or take things to extremes. We’ve all read countless articles on the internet about guys who are actually displaying various forms of obsessive-compulsive behavior and have lost all sense of perspective, even though they’re always calling it something else. It’s a common problem with some guys – again, made worse by a weekend length date.
Even if you like her very much and she doesn’t bother you at all, just because she’s represents all the things you want in a woman, doesn’t mean she views you even remotely in the same way. The weekend may be exactly the time she needs to realize you are not her best lover, Mr. Right, or her all-time-favorite. So by the time you were on your way to the airport and wanted a blowjob, she was way past the point of wanting to keep your fantasy alive. She was just a woman ready to get home, hence her rather disconnected attitude.
My advice would be to proceed slowly – no weekend dates yet. Limit yourself to evenings at first. Then spend all days together but not far from home so both have the option of just driving back any time. Keep increasing the time and distance until you find what is your boundary with her. It may be a long way until you are going out on week-long cruises, but at least you won’t wear off the relationship unnecessarily.
Tags: Psychology