What is a submissive?
by Khaos on Oct.24, 2011, under On being dominant
“Submissive” is a label used to describe a partner who takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role within a sexual context.
Here the term submissive typically refers to the partner who accepts the control of, and is obedient to the authority of, her Dominant partner within a sexual experience.
The submission of a partner is seldom absolute, often operating within a set of defined limits. A common means that submissives use to signal a Dominant partner that their limits are being approached, pushed, or even crossed is the use of safewords.
“Erotic submission is a contract between two equals, an expression of trust, and effective avenue to arousal, and a potent means of self-expression. To let another person into your heart and mind, to give him or her the ‘keys to the kingdom,’ and to trust that this person will not abuse that gift can create sexual magic. “ from Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex
