It doesn’t really matter, as long as you are congruent.
NLP still works even if the person knows NLP and knows you are using it.
Humans don’t have any natural defense that stops NLP from working on them. NLP was specific designed to go around human’s resistance and defenses.
When you start using it in daily life you start feeling the difference in the responses you get and your own level of self confidence. It ’s subjective to some point, but easy to notice.
The book Introducing NLP, by Joseph O’Connor & John Seymour is a very good place to start. I also learned some of it from Marshall Sylver, Joel Bauer, Anthony Robbins, and others.
With Joshua I learned that NLP is fine during approach and during seduction, but when you are building rapport with someone that is a better time to drop your guard but also drop your guns. It seems rapport building is the time to connect heart to heart and and be a friend first, time for utmost sincerity. I agree with it and have been using less NLP and relaxing more during that phase.
NLP brings efficiency to interpersonal communication. You can get your ideas through a lot faster and more efficiently. You can rapidly and easily establish a “connection†with others. Increase communication effectiveness by developing your ability to see, hear, and respond to subtle cues given by others. You can build motivation in yourself and others. Access states of mind or emotion that will be the most useful to you in any given situation. Be more confident and creative in conversations, presentations, and relationships (business or personal). You can also program positive behaviors, self-confidence, and thoughts directly in to your future.
Use NLP anytime you want to attract, persuade or seduce faster.