I appreciate a deeper level of sensual connection. An intense sensual awakening that only happens when lovers trust each other and are engaged in discovering what pleasures them the most, and what pleasures their lover.

Every change brings fear and uncertainty. The curiosity and desire for better life and experience is often suppressed by the fear of delving into uncharted territory. The idea of having someone more experienced guiding along the way tends to be very attractive for that very simple reason.

I found a path to it through sensual domination. It requires a lot of trust. To win my submissive’s mind, body and soul, I know I must first win her trust. I will show my submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. I must also show her that my guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that I am a man she can learn from, and trust my direction.

Above all else I cherish my women, in the knowledge that the gift they give me is the greatest of all. As a stern and demanding Dominant I take full advantage of the power given to me, but know how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

It doesn’t really matter, as long as you are congruent.

NLP still works even if the person knows NLP and knows you are using it.

Humans don’t have any natural defense that stops NLP from working on them. NLP was specific designed to go around human’s resistance and defenses.

When you start using it in daily life you start feeling the difference in the responses you get and your own level of self confidence. It ‘s subjective to some point, but easy to notice.

The book Introducing NLP, by Joseph O’Connor & John Seymour is a very good place to start. I also learned some of it from Marshall Sylver, Joel Bauer, Anthony Robbins, and others.

With Joshua I learned that NLP is fine during approach and during seduction, but when you are building rapport with someone that is a better time to drop your guard and also drop your guns. It seems rapport building is the time to connect heart to heart and and be vulnerable, time for utmost sincerity.

NLP brings efficiency to interpersonal communication. You can get your ideas through a lot faster and more efficiently. You can rapidly and easily establish a connection with others. Increase communication effectiveness by developing your ability to see, hear, and respond to subtle cues given by others. You can build motivation in yourself and others. Access states of mind or emotion that will be the most useful to you in any given situation. Be more confident and creative in conversations, presentations, and relationships (business or personal). You can also program positive behaviors, self-confidence, and thoughts directly in to your future.

Use NLP anytime you want to attract, persuade or seduce faster.

You can convince someone to do anything. You can also convince everyone to something. But I can’t believe that you can convince everyone to do anything.

But with enough time and planning you can convince nearly anyone to do nearly anything. However timing becomes a factor here.

That is part of filtering: You have to evaluate how much effort it will take to approach, build rapport, and then persuade someone. Some cases are easier than others and a good filtering process will help you find out what are the fruits hanging lower on the tree, and you go for those. Life is short, and we can’t waste time convincing everyone while all you need is find the one person that is already convinced.

When you establish enough rapport people react favorably to your approaches, to seduction, or to persuasion. If they are not being accepting and inviting yet that means you are not quite there yet.

The other evident way to know is by your emotional connection. Rapport is a two way road. They will like you, but you will like them too. You know they trust you partly because you trust them. You know they like you because you like them.

The ability to create rapport is the ability to create a harmonious relationship based on mutual trust or emotional ties. It is the art of making someone feel comfortable and accepted. It is friendship and camaraderie; it is a special bond or kinship.

Nothing has more impact in your general happiness and satisfaction in life than the quality of the relationships you keep, and that quality is a direct result of correct filtering and strong rapport.

This is not about how to control, manipulate or force others to submit to your will. Systems that promise that type of adolescent fantasy just don’t work. Any method in which one person loses so another can win will not resist the test of time. Such theories go against the way we live, think and act, and don’t take into consideration what we have to offer.

The way I live and love requires a lot of trust. When was the last time you put your safety in the hands of someone else? When was the last time you did it while at the most fragile moments when you are loving, with your guard down, totally vulnerable?

I never have to demand ritual behavior by a woman. She responds to me out of the want of pleasing me. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. I understand the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violate the trust given to me.

I am always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. I am patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust in me grows, so will the intensity of our relationship.

Creating and keeping rapport is in the center of it all. Escalating into higher levels of trust and compliance is the next thing.