Khaos Theory

I appreciate a deeper level of sensual connection. An intense sensual awakening that only happens when lovers trust each other and are engaged in discovering what pleasures them the most, and what pleasures their lover.

Every change brings fear and uncertainty. The curiosity and desire for better life and experience is often suppressed by the fear of delving into uncharted territory. The idea of having someone more experienced guiding along the way tends to be very attractive for that very simple reason.

I found a path to it through sensual domination. It requires a lot of trust. To win my submissive’s mind, body and soul, I know I must first win her trust. I will show my submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. I must also show her that my guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that I am a man she can learn from, and trust my direction.

Above all else I cherish my women, in the knowledge that the gift they give me is the greatest of all. As a stern and demanding Dominant I take full advantage of the power given to me, but know how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

It doesn’t really matter, as long as you are congruent.

NLP still works even if the person knows NLP and knows you are using it.

Humans don’t have any natural defense that stops NLP from working on them. NLP was specific designed to go around human’s resistance and defenses.

NLP brings efficiency to interpersonal communication. You can get your ideas through a lot faster and more efficiently. You can rapidly and easily establish a connection with others. Increase communication effectiveness by developing your ability to see, hear, and respond to subtle cues given by others. You can build motivation in yourself and others. Access states of mind or emotion that will be the most useful to you in any given situation. Be more confident and creative in conversations, presentations, and relationships (business or personal). You can also program positive behaviors, self-confidence, and thoughts directly in to your future.

Use NLP anytime you want to attract, persuade or seduce faster.

You can convince someone to do anything. You can also convince everyone to something. But I can’t believe that you can convince everyone to do anything.

But with enough time and planning you can convince nearly anyone to do nearly anything. However timing becomes a factor here.

That is part of filtering: You have to evaluate how much effort it will take to approach, build rapport, and then persuade someone. Some cases are easier than others and a good filtering process will help you find out what are the fruits hanging lower on the tree, and you go for those. Life is short, and we can’t waste time convincing everyone while all you need is find the one person that is already convinced.

The ability to create rapport is the ability to create a harmonious relationship based on mutual trust or emotional ties. It is the art of making someone feel comfortable and accepted. It is friendship and camaraderie; it is a special bond or kinship.

Nothing has more impact in your general happiness and satisfaction in life than the quality of the relationships you keep, and that quality is a direct result of correct filtering and strong rapport.

This is not about how to control, manipulate or force others to submit to your will. Systems that promise that type of adolescent fantasy just don’t work. Any method in which one person loses so another can win will not resist the test of time. Such theories go against the way we live, think and act, and don’t take into consideration what we have to offer.

The way I live and love requires a lot of trust. When was the last time you put your safety in the hands of someone else? When was the last time you did it while at the most fragile moments when you are loving, with your guard down, totally vulnerable?

I never have to demand ritual behavior by a woman. She responds to me out of the want of pleasing me. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. I understand the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violate the trust given to me.

I am always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. I am patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust in me grows, so will the intensity of our relationship.

Creating and keeping rapport is in the center of it all. Escalating into higher levels of trust and compliance is the next thing.

The quality of our lives depends directly on the quality of our communication. Communication with others as well as the communication with ourselves. There are some words that are very important in our communication which we should pay a lot attention.

You will not use these words by accident. You only use them by design, with a purpose in mind. Take control of these words and your communication will improve substantially:

Try

The word try suggests failure or insincerity. Say that you will try to do something is not the same as saying you will do something. If you say that you will try something and you end up failing, you can always say “at least I tried!”

Get rid of this word! And when someone tells you they will try to do what you want, you can practically know that it will not happen. For example: If a friend says that he will try to send you a report that you need on Monday, you can overcome this lack of definition – “I know that you are really busy and that Monday may not be possible. Can we set-up for you to deliver this report on Tuesday, for sure?” – Once you surround the person and obtain the commitment by having him switch “try” for “for sure” the chances you will see the result are much higher.

Replace the word “try” for “for sure” in your conversations and in other peoples’.

Wrong: I will try to call you back today.

Right: I will most definitely call you back today.

Wrong: I will try to get an A on my next exam.

Right: I will get an A on my next exam for sure.

Using the words “for sure” makes you commit, and does not let space for any doubt.

I can’t

Another set of words to take out of your vocabulary are the words “I can’t”. Because this always means one of two things: “I don’t know how” or “I don’t want to”.

If I say “I can’t” to myself I immediately ask if I do not know how to do it or if I don’t want to make any effort to do it. If it is the first case I certainly try to learn, and if it is the second I abandon the idea and don’t feel guilt about it.

Remove these words from your conversation and when someone tells you that, find out if this person doesn’t know how to do what she is asked, and in this case you can help by teaching her, or if she doesn’t want to do it you can may to convince her to do it or find someone else who will.

But

This word has a hidden meaning that you need to avoid. It means a negative. When someone uses the word “but” you can eliminate whatever comes before it in the phrase. For example, if someone says:

I like to be with you, but I do not have time to be here frequently.

The truth is:

I do not have time to be here frequently.

When someone says:

I want to be rich, but building wealth takes a lot of work.

What was actually said was:

Building wealth takes a lot of work.

In each place you use the word “but” you could use “and” and your attitude would be profoundly changed:

I like to be with you and I do not have time to come here frequently.

I want to be rich and building wealth takes a lot of work.

Hope

This verb shows indecision, and should be replaced by “know”. Look:

Undecided: I hope to finish this project until the end of the year.

Decided: I know I’ll finish this project until the end of the year.

Undecided: I hope to take all the right decisions.

Decided: I know I will take all the right decisions.

If

This word always shows lack of decision and could be replaced by “when”. The progress is dramatic. See how it changes:

Weak:

If I sell this product…

If I show you how this works…

You will be satisfied if you go on a dinner date with me…

You will make a lot of money if you give me this opportunity…

Now determined:

When I sell this product…

When I show you how this works…

You will be pleased when you go on a dinner date with me…

You will make a lot of money when you give me this opportunity…

Problem

Have you noticed how people treat you better when you smile? If someone asks how you are doing, always say “Excellent!”, and notice how you will be treated better!

Always use your best outfits. Do not dress up only for special occasions, dress up to make an occasion special. When you see a happy, well-dressed person with a confident talk and the certainty of winning, you would like to do business with her. I doubt you would rather to deal with the low-life behind the stand.

This attitude will also make you more attractive because you will attract other people like you. Because it is always more fun to be in the presence of winners than in the presence of losers.

If someone asks how you are doing, even if you are going thru the worst day ever and everything is going wrong, at least set your mind in the right direction saying: “I am getting better!”. In most situations what you answer may not make any difference to the listener, but it makes a great difference to you. You are not only talking to others, but also to yourself.

Successful people are in general excelent communicators. Politicians, businessmen, artists, investors. The great majority of them are experts in inspiring people to follow them and to agree with them.

The majority of people are afraid to speak in public. Matter of fact is that this is one of the main fears that holds people from achieving professional success, developing new relationships, and closing more deals. You must improve in order to be able to convince people go towards the direction you want to go.

Efficient communicators also take total responsibility for being understood. You will never hear a successful person saying: “You just don’t understand me!”. Good communicators certify themselves that they are being understood, and when that doesn’t happen, they take care of being clearer!

95% of people are conducted by only 5% of people. This happens because this minority has leadership and view. When you have a clear view of where you want to go, it is very easy to convince people to go with you.