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We all start from nothing. We arrive to this world naked, helpless and ignorant.

You accumulate certain resources throughout life, or maybe you have not accumulated any, usually measured by money. This vision is limited because it excludes many other resources you have:

Wealth is not made of money. Money is only one manifestation of wealth. It is a form, but not a substance. Prosperity is a mentality, not things. You can be prosperous without having much money. You can be rich and not be prosperous.

I am troubled by how much people measure success by money, while one thing has very little to do with the other. Do you think Gandhi was not a successful figure because his portfolio was not impressive? Would you classify Mother Theresa as a failure because she was not a rich woman? Most of our founding fathers end up their lives badly in debt. Jesus was broke!

At the same time we all know many people that have a lot of money and we wouldn’t trade places with them, we wouldn’t want their broken lives, and we would not want to be as unhappy, as frustrated, or as stupid as them.

Money does not measure how proud we are of our kids, or how loving we are to our spouses. Money does not reveal how much we care for the others and how loving we are to the ones who need our help. When you say something good to someone on the street that doesn’t add a dollar to your bank account, but it adds value to your life. Making money is important and we know many reasons to make lots of it, but never fall into the trap of measuring the value of people by how much they have.

It seems you can’t order oysters at a restaurant without someone saying “Oysters are aphrodisiacs! What are you up to today?” or some similar moronic comment. No, oysters are not aphrodisiacs, they are just another overpriced mollusk that happens to taste controversial.

There are three real aphrodisiacs.

Know them because if one of them doesn’t do it, one of the other two will.

The first one is wealth, the potential or willingness to add value to one’s reality. That value can come in the form of material wealth (money, gifts), power (connections, influence), or life style (fun, pleasure).

The second is curiosity. If you excite one’s curiosity enough you will generate enough attraction to bring the person towards you. Attraction can be the starting point to begin a relationship or even get to sex. But you need something more to bring the person to a much deeper level of intimacy and curiosity is the most straightforward  way to get to it.

The third one is dominance. Most women respond very well to true, positive dominance. If you ask them they will usually say otherwise, because they have been trained by society to say otherwise, but don’t pay attention to what they say: Look at what they do.