Khaos Theory

People want to make money, they want to learn, and they want to have fun. Not necessarily on that order. When you have an emotional connection with a woman, help her make more money, teach her how to live better, and show her how to have more fun and more pleasure, she will surely be considering you great company to keep.

Most people lead boring lives.

Not so much stupid, as mind-dumbingly boring. I don’t hate everyone. I just find most people boring. Uninteresting. Predictable. I don’t know why, I’m not a professional psychologist, but I tend to spend most conversations waiting for the other person to finish her text-book database of opening conversations.

So when you do anything unexpected, anything out of the ordinary, you automatically get upgraded to the “top 1%” just because the other 99% are simple doing nothing with their lives other than working, watching TV, procreating, and accumulating debt.

Nobody learns how to judge value in school. Your family didn’t teach you that either.

It’s very important to have a good sense of value to detect opportunities. If you can see through the surface (appearance, cash) you may find out that a person can give you opportunities, opening doors, sharing contacts, finding jobs or projects, helping you make money and/or have fun.

Who should have more value to you? Someone that can give you one thousand dollars, or someone that can show you how you can make ten thousand? It is obvious but most people will choose the former and ignore the later.

We all start from nothing. We arrive to this world naked, helpless and ignorant.

You accumulate certain resources throughout life, or maybe you have not accumulated any, usually measured by money. This vision is limited because it excludes many other resources you have:

Wealth is not made of money. Money is only one manifestation of wealth. It is a form, but not a substance. Prosperity is a mentality, not things. You can be prosperous without having much money. You can be rich and not be prosperous.

I am troubled by how much people measure success by money, while one thing has very little to do with the other. Do you think Gandhi was not a successful figure because his portfolio was not impressive? Would you classify Mother Theresa as a failure because she was not a rich woman? Most of our founding fathers end up their lives badly in debt. Jesus was broke!

At the same time we all know many people that have a lot of money and we wouldn’t trade places with them, we wouldn’t want their broken lives, and we would not want to be as unhappy, as frustrated, or as stupid as them.

Money does not measure how proud we are of our kids, or how loving we are to our spouses. Money does not reveal how much we care for the others and how loving we are to the ones who need our help. When you say something good to someone on the street that doesn’t add a dollar to your bank account, but it adds value to your life. Making money is important and we know many reasons to make lots of it, but never fall into the trap of measuring the value of people by how much they have.

It seems you can’t order oysters at a restaurant without someone saying “Oysters are aphrodisiacs! What are you up to today?” or some similar moronic comment. No, oysters are not aphrodisiacs, they are just another overpriced mollusk that happens to taste controversial.

There are three real aphrodisiacs.

Know them because if one of them doesn’t do it, one of the other two will.

The first one is wealth, the potential or willingness to add value to one’s reality. That value can come in the form of material wealth (money, gifts), power (connections, influence), or life style (fun, pleasure).

The second is curiosity. If you excite one’s curiosity enough you will generate enough attraction to bring the person towards you. Attraction can be the starting point to begin a relationship or even get to sex. But you need something more to bring the person to a much deeper level of intimacy and curiosity is the most straightforward  way to get to it.

The third one is dominance. Most women respond very well to true, positive dominance. If you ask them they will usually say otherwise, because they have been trained by society to say otherwise, but don’t pay attention to what they say: Look at what they do.