Khaos Theory

You can easily find plenty of advice online about how important it is for a couple to communicate their desires and preferences. It can’t be stated more clearly: If you don’t have a healthy way of expressing your thoughts and emotions to each other, of speaking and being heard, then everything else will ultimately crumble. I agree with that and I think that with most couples that advice would be just what they need…

But not in every case.

In regular sex, or vanilla sex as I like to call it, there is a certain very predictable sequence: Motivation, excitement, foreplay, plateau, orgasm, resolution. Always the exact same sequence with very little variation and it always goes from a few minutes (often) to even a few hours (rarely). It is mechanical and predictable. Pleasurable for a while, boring on the long run.

In a more sophisticated sexual lifestyle that includes much more sophisticated mental play, the time frame of a sexual experience can be seen in different metrics. Our sexual encounter may not be measured as one-get-laid-session but in a much longer frame. I may be planning something that will take several days to build up…

But to make it work I may need to communicate less!

If I tell you to not think about Elvis, what do you immediately think of? Yes, Elvis. If I told you that I will surprise you this weekend with a gift, would I still be able to surprise you with a gift? No. Too much information will diminish the effect, or spoil the experience altogether. I can’t let your mind get on the way.

In my experience, sex is a game, and I like to use the word game in it’s most positive and child-like meaning: It is played because it is fun, and it is played to win. Every time I am paying attention to what is it that excites you and brings you up to higher levels of enjoyment. I also pay attention to how much I like what happens along the way.

What I like to do is to create a domino effect. I find something that you like, and you may not even be aware of yet, and I will excite that. I may create these sequences of do-this-than-this-than-that and will need to implement that sequence over a course of several days for it to reach it’s full effect. Maybe I will not do something you like or at least not do it enough to build up tension and expectation. I may frustrate you in the short term to make it more intense over time. Whatever it is that I am doing it has the purpose of building up higher and higher sexual tension…

…and I will not tell you what is it I have in mind.

Intelligent, beautiful women like you always end up being a danger to themselves if left to their own devices. You have a highly developed intellect and the common place bores you, particularly sexually. As a result you push yourself to greater extremes, to continue that sensation of breaking a taboo and feeling utterly totally sinful and alive.

What you need is a man to take you in hand, to break you until you know nothing except satisfying his demands rather than chasing your own. You deserve to be with somebody who makes you feel utterly adored when you earn it, like every inch of your skin is alive with the sensation of a kiss and caress.

I know how to treat sluts like you. Only two things matter: The first is understanding that to a beautiful women intelligence can be a prison. It causes you to think, to ponder to doubt and to re-challenge. You have an ego telling you what you want, a super-ego telling you what you should want, and your sexuality telling you what makes you burn. They are all different and separate things. Your ideas about equality stand against your sexuality which in turn directly contradicts your aspirations and values.

I take you, I break you and I turn you into what I want. I cut through the knot that ties your mind, because you will be trained to provide for my wants and not worry about your own, and as a result you will be totally free.

Also, most women have something in there life that they are missing. It may be that they’ve been in a relationship where they hadn’t been physically admired. They might crave authority, they might miss affection. Every lost little girl has a hole in her heart so I find it and I fill it until it’s so full it’s about to burst. Then I take it away again, and watch what she is willing to do for me.

Cirque du Soleil’s Zumanity, act: “Waterbowl”

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Sensual awakening releases the most intense energy and source of physical comfort and happiness there is. Nothing (even drugs?) can release tension and stress and improve your well being like sexual satisfaction.

It seems to me that if you look at all the problems that affect human beings, sexual needs and relationship dysfunctions seem to be on the root of nearly everything.

If you have good relationships and satisfy your sexual needs frequently what else is left to worry about in life? Oh, there is money…